When we want to see examples of peak performance, we don’t have to look much further than at a professional sports team – sure, these players make millions of dollars and their lives might seem… More
When it came to expectations on my education and career, I grew up under very fortunate circumstances. In my family and social circle, I was expected to get good grades in school, go to University and get a practical major, and then get a decent job after graduation. Once at that job, I was then expected to climb the corporate ladder.
For many years I followed this life template to a T, I played the office politics, aligned myself to the right people, sought out influential mentors, and for the most part – the template worked. I got several promotions, and my career trajectory looked promising.
As my career grew I found myself feeling more and more unfulfilled, as an introvert, I also felt increasingly drained. I constantly felt as if I was playing a character who had absolutely nothing to do with who I actually was. My life didn’t feel like my own. The closer I got to accomplishing a career goal, the more eager I was to leave that job.
After a lot of tears, feelings of anxiety and frustration, seeking out books and articles on the topic, meditating and self reflecting, the realization I made was pretty simple: Continue reading “Stepping off the wrong path in search of the right one”
Making mistakes is part of the human experience. No matter how smart we are, or how educated we might be, everyone screws up. What separates those of us who succeed from those who seem stuck in time, unable to move forward, has less to do with the act of making the mistake, and more to do with the actions we take following the mistake.
Some mistakes are bigger than others, and the consequences vary, but the principle remains the same: your response to a mistake will have a greater impact on the outcome of an event, than the mistake itself.
Let’s look at an example:
“In order to say yes to your priorities, you have to be willing to say no to something else”
There was a time in my life when I found it critically important to be the best. No matter what the project or task, I made it my responsibility to go above and beyond, to over perform and out perform everyone else. Part of it stemmed from a need to please others so I wouldn’t have to face my insecurities and feelings of inadequacy stemming from my childhood…but mostly, it was a subconscious addiction. I was so used to giving 110%, I never really stopped to think about the cost. Continue reading “It’s ok to be ok”
Very often, we set a goal for ourselves and we visualize its success, we plan for it, we pray about it, and then we wait for it to happen. We wait for the connections to show up in our lives, we wait for the opportunity to find us – the phone call, the unexpected job offer etc… and while these instances do occur, there is still one tried and tested method of accomplishing your goals, and it’s so simple that it can be explained in 3 words: do the work.
It is 100% your responsibility to make things happen. Don’t wait for the opportunity, go out and find it.
If you can’t find a way, make a way.
Whenever you’re embarking on a journey, it’s important to become at peace with your past, and learn from those issues or insecurities that might be holding you back.
My client Kate had over 100lbs to loose, but she confided in me that she had been struggling with her weight since childhood, she had established an unhealthy relationship with food and often turned to the fast food drive-thru in response to just about any issue she was feeling that the time.
Step 1: Figure out Where You Are.
Whether it’s a road trip, or a dream…you’re more likely to get to where you want to be by first having a good understanding of where you are. Want a new job? Assess your skills. Want to loose weight? Get on a scale and take note of your starting weight. Want to buy a house? Review your finances and your credit. By taking a long hard look at where you are today, you’re better able to determine what’s needed to move you forward.
Step 2: Know Where you Want to Go Continue reading “10 steps to get from where you are to where you want to be”
Have you ever had a goal that just lingered for years with absolutely no progress. Like you’ve talking to family and friends about the goal, you thought about the goal, but year after year all you’ve done is talk about it and absolutely nothing changes…
I call this phase planner paralysis. It’s that comforting phase of making and remaking plans and strategies for the change, without the change happening.
Well, I have the answer to that conundrum!
Want to start seeing your dreams and seeing that change? Here’s the secret (that’s not so secret) ACT. Take action, regardless of how big or small. Do one thing right TODAY that’ll bring you closer to your goal.